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New Philosophy: Everything To Gain

Posted on December 16, 2014December 12, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

How is it that the mind is so much more agile and able to turn over ideas and philosophies with such ease … in the pre-dawn? With rain falling softly against the window at 5am, and my iPad lighting up the room, I swiped my screen to find a Sunday Review piece called Abundance Without…

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What I Wish I’d Known Then: Virtual Casseroles Feed the Soul

Posted on February 2, 2013August 5, 2015 by Pamela Tsigdinos

February 3, 2007 marks a turning point. It’s the day I decided to reach outside my head, to wear my heart on my sleeve, and to seek some answers. Minutes after publishing my very first Coming2Terms blog post on that stormy night six years ago my stomach turned queasy. After years of suffering silently in…

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If You Think You’ve Changed, Just Wait

Posted on January 17, 2013September 22, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

“At every age we think we’re having the last laugh, and at every age we’re wrong.” -Daniel T. Gilbert, Harvard Psychologist How good are you at predicting who you will become? If you’re like most people you’ll underestimate how much change awaits you. This conclusion was born out in a research paper published in Science…

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Trading Places: My (M)other Life

Posted on October 30, 2012March 23, 2019 by Pamela Tsigdinos

It’s day two of the open salon hosted by yours truly and Keiko of The Infertility Voice. We created this dialogue to discuss both sides of the motherhood debate from our unique perspectives. Why? To parse out the concerns and vulnerabilities of transition within the ALI (adoption/loss/infertility) community without tripping over political correctness and delicate sensibilities….

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Mom-in-Chief?

Posted on September 5, 2012November 13, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

M E M O R A N D U M TO: Michelle Obama RE: Mom-in-Chief? Was it Really Necessary to Try to Out-Mom Ann Romney? Full disclosure: I have been and remain a supporter of your husband, President Barack Obama, as well as a supporter of your tireless efforts to curb childhood obesity, your unwavering support…

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Free To Be You and Me

Posted on September 23, 2011August 14, 2014 by Pamela Tsigdinos

I’m not sure what possessed me to write it. Was it my cumulative annoyance at People magazine for devoting so much editorial real estate (for instance every week!) to celebrating all aspects of parenthood (hey – how about some equal time, People editors)? Was it the veiled tone of pity, the whiff of judgment, or…

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Rather than focus on one particular role, let’s focus on the full person

Posted on March 10, 2011March 25, 2017 by Pamela Tsigdinos

In March 1911 more than one million women and men attended International Women’s Day rallies campaigning for women’s rights to work, vote, be trained, to hold public office and end discrimination. There was some irony in that I was so preoccupied and engaged in my work as a marketing exec managing a variety of high…

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Zen and the Art of Living After Infertility

Posted on December 16, 2010February 12, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

The title of this blog post came to me as I poured my second cup of coffee. While I’ve yet to read Robert Maynard Pirsig‘s Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance, I recall laughing the first time I heard the title. In researching his ideas further this morning, the book is now officially on…

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You’re the Star of Your Own Life

Posted on November 9, 2010May 4, 2014 by Pamela Tsigdinos

What do you do with years of expectation about roles and identity? How do you turn off the tape in your head about what was supposed to be the rest of your life? Where do you find a new sense of purpose and meaning? Those are some of the big, huge, enormous questions that have…

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Heart to Heart

Posted on October 26, 2010December 13, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Heart-filled conversations don’t often surface with work colleagues. I don’t like to bring grown men to tears, not the least of which because it usually gets me verklempt. “It has grieved me greatly,” he said with just the barest hint of Southern drawl, “to think I might have hurt you in some way…” “Oh,” I…

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