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Why Do We Pretend Away Infertility?

Posted on March 25, 2013February 25, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Humans don’t do well with emotional discomfort of any kind. This has been proven time and time again, but no more so than with infertility. It can be traumatizing on many levels, but I guess I didn’t realize how difficult an infertility diagnosis can be on other people. They just do not want to see…

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Let’s Change Some Attitudes

Posted on March 7, 2013April 15, 2019 by Pamela Tsigdinos

“I don’t know how to deal with this…” That’s a common response, albeit usually unspoken, for people in the throes of reconciling an infertility diagnosis. Curiously, those are also the same eight words that pop into the head of someone who isn’t dealing directly with infertility when they learn someone close is swept up in…

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Your Sanity Matters Much More Than You Think

Posted on February 8, 2013February 4, 2017 by Pamela Tsigdinos

This post is dedicated to new readers — those who found their way here from the Bitter Infertiles (podcast Episode 20). If you’re new to this blog, I hope you’ll see it’s quite pleasant here. Contrary to conventional wisdom, flowers grow. Laughter is encouraged. All in all, we strive to make this blog a place…

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Narrative Bias and Why Context Matters

Posted on August 8, 2012February 4, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

It’s hard not to be caught up in the excitement of the Olympics. Beyond the awe-inspiring athleticism, stories abound. They resonate in large part because we understand the context. The narratives fulfill a hunger of sorts — whether for inspiration, a sense of accomplishment or a common bond that goes beyond country or sport. Not…

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Not Having Children After Infertility ‘An Assault to Identity’

Posted on April 30, 2012January 15, 2017 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Women who experience infertility and do not gone on to parent get short shrift not only in society but in research. They are left to cope without much needed support or understanding. This is made all the more difficult amid the deification of mothers. That’s why I’m pleased today to share an online discussion with the…

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Don’t Ignore…There’s More Than One Infertility Ending

Posted on April 24, 2012January 1, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Now that the shock, stigma and the ensuing hairball of emotions that infertility exploded on me has dissipated, I’m happy to report that with each year (nearly nine) post-treatment, life has become better than good. And, furthermore, my reproductive organs are thrilled, positively delighted, to be out of the limelight. It’s also a relief not to be wracked…

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Betty Ford Taught Me To Confront Stigma Head On

Posted on July 9, 2011February 4, 2017 by Pamela Tsigdinos

“It was like going to a party you’re terrified of, and finding out to your amazement that you’re having a good time.” That’s how Betty Ford, who passed away today at 93, described her life in the White House during one of the most turbulent times in U.S. history. I was 10 years old when…

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Are You Courageous?

Posted on January 27, 2011September 22, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Courage is from the Latin word, cor, meaning heart — the original definition was to tell the story of who you are with your whole heart. * It takes great effort to be courageous in the face of infertility. This is just one of many thoughts that provoked new insights this week. The insights first…

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In The Company of Women

Posted on May 14, 2010August 14, 2014 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Is it any wonder women who have struggled with infertility have difficulty finding peace or feeling accepted? Sheesh! The drubbing my people took in The New York Times Motherlode comments last weekend was brutal. (Warning: some truly hateful thoughts — and many of these came from parents!? Just what kind of example are they setting?)…

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