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Life as a childless woman

Life Under Unusual Circumstances

Posted on August 26, 2021August 27, 2021 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Life taxes us in ways large and small.  This maxim is the one constant beyond the sun that greets us each morning. Value Each Breath Those well-acquainted with me know asthma remains my wily and unpredictable companion. Dog and cat dander floating in the air, pollen storms and smoke are just some of the pernicious…

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Relief and Reflection Deliver New Insights

Posted on March 18, 2021March 20, 2021 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Relief is the feeling that floods your body when you know there’s a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel. I’ve felt relief many times throughout my life. Relief in knowing my 4th grade teacher, Mrs. Cote, still liked me after she scolded me for not being compassionate enough toward another student. Relief…

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Living the Life Unexpected Takes on New Meaning

Posted on March 17, 2020March 17, 2020 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Living the life unexpected has become all too startlingly familiar, hasn’t it? Who among us has not felt jolted by the sudden onset of this out-of-nowhere, insidious coronavirus threat to what had been our mostly well-ordered lives and sense of agency? But, from my personally Cloroxed plane seat amid the current pandemic yesterday a spectacular…

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infertility chasm

On the Other Side of the Infertility Chasm

Posted on March 23, 2017March 23, 2017 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Hellllloooooo! Yes. Still here happily on the other side of the infertility chasm. Won’t bore you with details, but the past several weeks have been busier than usual.  A bit like drinking from a fire hydrant. Absorbing a great deal in all spheres of life.  While I may be very behind on social media and…

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Identity after Infertility and Failed IVF

Posted on February 3, 2017September 13, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Identity — and the loss of it — loomed large 10 years ago as I sat staring at my computer. I didn’t know who I was any more. Scared. Untethered. Unsure of what awaited me. I stared at a blinking cursor. Heart broken. Filled with longing for what might have been. I nursed an overwhelming…

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Two Wiser Women On Society and Motherhood

Posted on March 9, 2016March 10, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

  Welcome to all on the virtual book tour for Life Without Baby: Surviving and Thriving When Motherhood Doesn’t Happen.  (Don’t have your copy yet? You can get one here. Don’t worry, we’ll wait…) ~~ Right. Let’s get to it, shall we? Author Lisa Manterfield has done a tremendous service for those grappling with this question: “What if I never get to…

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Silent Sorority

Male Call: The Head Cannot Heal the Heart

Posted on February 16, 2016February 16, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Editor’s Note: When it comes to matters of the heart, there’s nothing quite so comforting and validating as discovering you’re not alone in teasing out complicated emotions. Whether in the blogosphere or in society as a whole male voices are in the minority on the topic of disenfranchised grief. It’s rare to hear men give…

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The change

The Change: For Reals

Posted on October 27, 2015October 29, 2015 by Pamela Tsigdinos

While my recent blog posts have been outward facing — examining the increasingly surreal fertility-obsessed world and the entrepreneurial fertility industry eager to cash in around it  — this post, girlfriends, is kicking it old school. Grab a cup of coffee or your favorite libation ’cause we’re going inside the girl tent. The numbers don’t…

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Dear Abby Strikes Out On Infertility, Childless Not By Choice Question

Posted on August 27, 2015July 9, 2019 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Dear Abby (aka Jeanne Phillips), Pamela Jeanne here.  Nice to meet you. So let me get right to the point. That 2nd letter you posted today, the one about the woman feeling a void in her life following an infertility diagnosis? Yeah, I’m afraid you struck out. You see the question posed by BROKEN RECORD…

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Emotions: First We Get Really Uncomfortable…

Posted on July 7, 2015March 15, 2021 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Life would be a whole lot more comfortable and easier to navigate if it unfolded neatly or predictably. Alas, that’s not the case for most of us. Mix in a contentious, complex topic (e.g. the inability to reproduce) and watch the discomfort rise. It’s understandable. Beyond the biological unpleasantness, there is upheaval to our sense…

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