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Permission to Feel Emotions Deeply

Posted on January 19, 2023March 1, 2023 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Permission is a tricky thing. We frequently readily provide it to others but deny it to ourselves. That’s often because allowing ourselves freely to engage in activities such as sitting with our emotions can seem self-indulgent. But, in reality, it can be self-affirming. Reader Writes About Permission Denied It’s always gratifying to hear from new…

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Empathy: The Glue That Holds Humanity Together

Posted on March 10, 2022March 11, 2022 by Pamela Tsigdinos

There are few things harder than bearing witness to suffering, grief, or pain. When we hear someone’s sorrow in their breaking voice, our hearts clench. Our eyes well up. Empathy, the glue that holds humanity together, kicks in. Empathy causes us to ache in unison. We cast about, sometimes helplessly, to find a way to…

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Loss and Life Beyond Failed Fertility

Posted on March 3, 2021March 3, 2021 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Loss lives on in ways large and small following an infertility diagnosis and failed IVF. This truth permeates the world of IVF survivors. That’s just one of many topics explored in a new Life Beyond Failed Fertility podcast with yours truly now available on iTunes and on Spotify, Podomatic, and Amazon. Loss Reflections When the podcast…

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Silent Sorority 10 Year Anniversary

Silent Sorority Marks 10-Year Anniversary

Posted on April 1, 2019April 1, 2019 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Silent Sorority marks its 10-year anniversary this month. It became the first memoir to tackle failed IVF and explore infertility’s disenfranchised grief. In honor of this milestone, we’ll look back at the book’s impact and the conversations it stimulated. Let’s start with The Ladies in Waiting Book Club. The initial discussion is preserved on The…

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The Joy of Being an Infertile* Woman

Posted on January 14, 2019January 14, 2019 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Word swap (inserting infertile or childless to replace other words) has long been my way to make a point about the perils of tribalistic thinking. It’s amusing and informative to highlight one’s myopic perspective. Further, the exercise can reveal insights applicable to other tribes or communities. In this latest example, an author asserts age confers…

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Darkness Musings, Lessons Learned

Posted on December 13, 2018December 13, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Darkness comes ever earlier this time of year. It’s arrival — shrinking our days bit by bit — makes an already busy end of year seem even more frenetic. Yet, blackness also delivers stillness and focus. I reflected on this further following a yoga class at mid-day this week. Late autumn sunlight streamed through the…

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Not a Thing

How Is This Not a Thing?

Posted on April 9, 2018April 9, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

You know how you hear or read something, and your first thought is, “Huh? How is this not a thing?” In my case this response usually has to do with infertility-related topics. Thing One: Endometriosis How is a proper and timely diagnosis for endometriosis still not a thing? The superb Samantha Bee recently highlighted this…

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Uterus

That Damned Uterus

Posted on February 28, 2018March 1, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

The uterus. It’s just an organ but unlike other organs — a kidney, a bladder or a lung — it carries tremendous identity significance.  Baggage, too — cultural and otherwise. Upon reproductive age, its power increases. Beyond a vexing way of making itself very evident every month, it also holds the promise of creation.  If,…

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identity

Identity after Infertility and Failed IVF

Posted on February 3, 2017September 13, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Identity — and the loss of it — loomed large 10 years ago as I sat staring at my computer. I didn’t know who I was any more. Scared. Untethered. Unsure of what awaited me. I stared at a blinking cursor. Heart broken. Filled with longing for what might have been. I nursed an overwhelming…

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Triggered In A Way I Didn’t Expect

Posted on December 11, 2016December 12, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Triggered is a word I don’t take lightly. To be triggered is when anything, as an act or event, serves as a stimulus and initiates or precipitates a reaction or series of reactions. That’s why a trigger warning now seems appropriate. The correlations I draw here might leave you triggered. You may want to skip…

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