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How About a Time Cover Story on Women Who Aren’t Moms or Childfree?

Posted on August 5, 2013February 17, 2021 by Pamela Tsigdinos

In the past year Time magazine has run two cover stories (Are You Mom Enough? and The ChildFree Life: When Having it All Means Not Having Children) and managed to miss — both times — a notable segment of the female population: women who don’t identify either as “moms” or “childfree.” If you dropped in…

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Grief Is a Form of Love

Posted on April 8, 2013October 25, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

It’s been a few years since I first began to pick up the pieces broken and splintered off in the tempest of infertility and failed IVF. Because there were no instructions for reassembly, no “how to cope with infertility” imparted by elders or learned through societal observation, I’ve had my fair share of trial and…

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Not All Mothers Are Sanctimommies, Hooray!

Posted on February 5, 2013February 11, 2021 by Pamela Tsigdinos

As part of my blogoversary week of lessons learned… #2 The Blogosphere Can Foster Strange Bedfellows One of the toughest aspects of being part of a group routinely held up for scrutiny (e.g. women without children) is facing detractors who feel perfectly at ease casting aspersions or passing value judgements on our lives. I don’t…

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The Invisibleness of Infertility: To Pass or Not to Pass?

Posted on October 25, 2012December 16, 2020 by Pamela Tsigdinos

This is a story about the correlation of infertility and allergies. Each Wednesday for a year I dutifully showed up at my local allergy office to get three painful shots. The nurse plunged a syringe containing a cocktail of pollens, trees and grasses into my right arm. In the top left upper arm she injected…

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Not Having Children After Infertility ‘An Assault to Identity’

Posted on April 30, 2012January 15, 2017 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Women who experience infertility and do not gone on to parent get short shrift not only in society but in research. They are left to cope without much needed support or understanding. This is made all the more difficult amid the deification of mothers. That’s why I’m pleased today to share an online discussion with the…

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Australian & American Leaders: Whose Got the Tougher Perception to Overcome?

Posted on April 9, 2012December 16, 2020 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Editor’s Note: I’m pleased to share with you a guest post from Gillian Guthrie, author of Childless: Reflections on Life’s Longing for Itself. You might recall I included a link to an interview with Gillian in a previous post. (Thanks again, Carmel, for pointing us to the story.) Curiosity led me to seek Gillian out. A…

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Post-Traumatic Growth

Posted on April 1, 2012March 8, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

  A recent conversation with Lisa Manterfield, a fellow blogger, validated the delicate balancing act required when writing about a topic that is deeply personal — one that has wide-ranging impact and carries the power to reshape our sense of identity and the way in which we grow and move forward in our lives. Lisa described watching a frog swim valiantly and hard across…

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Free To Be You and Me

Posted on September 23, 2011August 14, 2014 by Pamela Tsigdinos

I’m not sure what possessed me to write it. Was it my cumulative annoyance at People magazine for devoting so much editorial real estate (for instance every week!) to celebrating all aspects of parenthood (hey – how about some equal time, People editors)? Was it the veiled tone of pity, the whiff of judgment, or…

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Two Movies, One Gets it Right

Posted on August 28, 2011September 22, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Much has been written about The Help — the book and the movie. The book contents remain locked in my iPad; I downloaded it several months ago but lacked the urgency to tap it open. The movie prompted a different response. I made a point of carving out 146 minutes to lose myself in the…

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Happy T(w)ogether, Thank You Very Much

Posted on August 7, 2011May 24, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

In the category of inflammatory headlines posed as a question here’s one from a self-described “journalist, mother, thinker” that begs a response: Are Childless Couples Headed Toward Divorce? The short answer from my field research is an emphatic: Hell No! The link to the provocative Huffington Post blog headline first came from a longtime pen…

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