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Women Who Elevate the Childless Conversation

Posted on December 28, 2022December 30, 2022 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Women I could easily connect with or who effortlessly ‘got me’ and my complicated childless, ‘non-mom’ experience once felt elusive. That’s because during my 30s and well into my early 40s I learned some hard truths. You could say I was akin to an older Janis Ian. Modifying a few of her classic lyrics a…

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Tribalism: From Kinship to Tyranny

Posted on March 22, 2022June 22, 2022 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Tribalism at its best provides a haven and kinship. Who doesn’t like to feel accepted and validated? Tribalism at its worst, however, fuels misunderstandings, culture wars, and, at the extreme, ugliness. Most of us have witnessed or encountered all of the above. My latest tribal experience stemmed from my participation in Slate‘s podcast, What I…

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Atta Girl (And That Means, You!)

Posted on December 16, 2020December 17, 2020 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Atta Girl is a new publication on Medium. (More about why it exists in a minute.) Today, I am pleased to be among its published writers. Now, I don’t know about you, but I got a little weary of the Momala, Momala, Momala in recent weeks.  The ‘momification’ of Kamala got me thinking and writing….

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Tokenism Takes a New Form

Posted on October 9, 2020October 9, 2020 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Tokenism is an awkward thing to experience. I never fully understood how prevalent it is for childless women, but the penny dropped a few weeks ago. So, it started when a Random House marketing manager sent a ham-handed email. She asked if I’d like to read and share The Trying Game as part of October’s…

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Living the Life Unexpected Takes on New Meaning

Posted on March 17, 2020March 17, 2020 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Living the life unexpected has become all too startlingly familiar, hasn’t it? Who among us has not felt jolted by the sudden onset of this out-of-nowhere, insidious coronavirus threat to what had been our mostly well-ordered lives and sense of agency? But, from my personally Cloroxed plane seat amid the current pandemic yesterday a spectacular…

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How Has Not Having Kids Affected You? How Much Time Do You Have…

Posted on December 1, 2019December 2, 2019 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Greetings, longtime blog readers! My recent blog sabbatical wasn’t planned. Competing writing projects, doctor visits and travel demanded my time. More on those activities in a subsequent post. Meanwhile, I’m happy to report our community continues to make new inroads into education and support for those affected by involuntary childlessness. First Up: Fresh and Frank…

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Childless Explorations Around the World

Posted on September 22, 2019November 27, 2019 by Pamela Tsigdinos

World Childless Week is the brainchild of Stephanie Phillips. She first conceived the idea in 2017. With the help of numerous childless bloggers and members of several online childless support groups, WCW has grown and blossomed. The World Childless Week website contains a wealth of stories and insights. Learn more about the mission here. Wrestling…

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Childless Not by Choice: A Conversation with Civilla Morgan

Posted on February 11, 2019January 9, 2021 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Childless not by choice (CNBC) is a community I never expected to join.  For many years I didn’t even know this vibrant community existed. However, what I did know 12 years and 8 days ago is this: I was in pain. On my best days I struggled mightily. The worst? I reeled. Imagine a stormy…

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Childless is a word I detest

Posted on September 13, 2018November 12, 2022 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Childless. While there is not one thing I like about this word, I am supportive of those who want to draw attention to the social issues surrounding it. What’s behind my dislike of the word? First of all, it comes loaded with baggage.  Unkind stereotypes abound. I could find no evidence of the word ‘childful’…

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How We Have Yet to Change

Posted on August 15, 2010December 16, 2020 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Some days it’s hard to know if we’re living in 2010 or 1985. The jacket copy of Gail Collins’ book, When Everything Changed: The Amazing Journey of American Women from 1960 to the Present, assures readers they “will be startled.” That’s true. The book is chock full of anecdotes and insights chronicling how women’s roles…

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