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Childless is a word I detest

Posted on September 13, 2018November 12, 2022 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Childless. While there is not one thing I like about this word, I am supportive of those who want to draw attention to the social issues surrounding it. What’s behind my dislike of the word? First of all, it comes loaded with baggage.  Unkind stereotypes abound. I could find no evidence of the word ‘childful’…

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21 Miles: Reconciling Grief, Love and Fear

Posted on August 13, 2018September 25, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

21 Miles not only held my attention (no small feat in today’s distraction-addled environment), it fed my heart and nurtured my soul. 21 Miles recounts the story of Jessica Hepburn‘s valiant efforts to both swim the English Channel and answer whether “motherhood makes you happy” or whether “you can have a fulfilling life without children.”…

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Dark side of IVF comes into focus 40 years later

Posted on July 27, 2018July 27, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Editor’s Note: I researched and wrote this piece, As dark side of IVF slowly comes into focus, even more transparency is needed, to coincide with the 40th anniversary of IVF. My thanks to the editorial team at STAT, the Boston Globe Media health site for publishing it. Excerpt: I was 15 in 1978 when Louise…

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IVF is 40

IVF is 40, Untold Stories Cast Milestone in New Light

Posted on July 15, 2018July 16, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

IVF is 40 this month. Type ‘IVF is 40’ into your news search engine of choice. You’ll find headlines that reflect a one-dimensional narrative. Missing from the narratives are couples who’ve had to cope with the aftermath of 20 million failed IVF cycles. You also won’t read about the health toll on young women involved…

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Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness

Posted on June 4, 2018June 17, 2019 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Childlessness and joy are rarely used in the same sentence. Lesley Pyne, however,  has devoted the past few years digging into the reality of childlessness. Her quest? To understand how to process the losses, carve out a new path and rediscover joy. It’s all in her new book, Finding Joy Beyond Childlessness: Inspiring Stories to…

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IVF sausage factory

That IVF Sausage Factory

Posted on April 29, 2018May 16, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

IVF is a Sausage Factory I was not Prepared For… So writes Professor James Arvanitakis in an essay for The Sydney Morning Herald. Oh how we hear you, James. We are immensely grateful for your honesty. In a few paragraphs you painted a clear picture of what it feels like to be on the receiving…

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Not a Thing

How Is This Not a Thing?

Posted on April 9, 2018April 9, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

You know how you hear or read something, and your first thought is, “Huh? How is this not a thing?” In my case this response usually has to do with infertility-related topics. Thing One: Endometriosis How is a proper and timely diagnosis for endometriosis still not a thing? The superb Samantha Bee recently highlighted this…

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Uterus

That Damned Uterus

Posted on February 28, 2018March 1, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

The uterus. It’s just an organ but unlike other organs — a kidney, a bladder or a lung — it carries tremendous identity significance.  Baggage, too — cultural and otherwise. Upon reproductive age, its power increases. Beyond a vexing way of making itself very evident every month, it also holds the promise of creation.  If,…

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Insights from Catching Sight of Thelma and Louise

Posted on February 3, 2018March 7, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Insights often originate with films and books. The really good stories and characters become touchstones or stay with me like familiar old friends. So, on this, my 11th anniversary of blogging (yes, Happy Anniversary dear readers, it all began here February 3, 2007), I’d like to encourage all to find and watch the soul-stirring documentary…

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‘Non-moms’ Often Forced to Contemplate and Carve out Their Own Unique Space and Meaning

Posted on January 9, 2018January 10, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

    Non-moms recognized? Read on … That opening paragraph grabbed me. Did it grab, you, too? Truly, I didn’t expect this acknowledgement to make it into print, but it did. I stumbled upon this reference to ‘non-moms’ in a story because Silent Sorority garnered a mention in a feature about Dolly Parton.  (And that…

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