Silent Sorority

Infertility Survivors Finally Heard

August 15, 2010

How We Have Yet to Change

Some days it’s hard to know if we’re living in 2010 or 1985. The jacket copy of Gail Collins’ book, When Everything Changed: The Amazing Journey of American Women from 1960 to the Present, assures readers they “will be startled.” That’s true. The book is chock full of anecdotes and insights chronicling how women’s roles […]

Book Musings 13 Replies to “How We Have Yet to Change”
July 23, 2010

The “New” New Thing

The past week or so I’ve sensed a certain je ne sais quoi. On a personal note, I have been feeling life, identity, belonging in a way that seems natural, nothing forced, no pretending. You could say I’ve been getting a new groove on. It occurred to me that I’ve been so immersed in my […]

Different Than I Expected, News Reports and Studies 16 Replies to “The “New” New Thing”
July 14, 2010

Invisibility — Seen it Lately?

“The minute you retire, it’s as if you’re invisible.” I had to do a double-take when I read that sentence in an article about how difficult it is to get Stanford profs to make space for younger faculty. What my brain read was “the minute you’re infertile, it’s as if you’re invisible.” Funny thing my […]

Linking Around, Relationships 12 Replies to “Invisibility — Seen it Lately?”
July 7, 2010

I Get Knocked Down, But I Get Up Again…

It was mid-afternoon in the Sierra Nevada Mountains when the email arrived. Three loads of laundry had been folded and tucked back into their rightful place. The kitchen floor glistened, still fresh from a serious mopping with Murphy’s Oil Soap. Digital images stored in my computer held joy and wonder from a long holiday weekend […]

Book Musings 19 Replies to “I Get Knocked Down, But I Get Up Again…”
June 25, 2010

On Moving to the Next Stage

The latest contributor to our Tapestry of Voices is Lisa Manterfield, a Southern California-based writer. After making the decision to live child-free, she founded the online community, Life Without Baby, for women who do not have children, whether by chance, choice or circumstance.  Her piece, below, first ran last month in the Los Angeles Times. I was five […]

Guest Post, Tapestry of Voices 6 Replies to “On Moving to the Next Stage”
June 12, 2010

Still Becoming Me

Aging once felt like an enemy, a fiendish process that compounded an already maddening battle with the forces of biology. Not any longer.  Tomorrow, I welcome 47. So what are some thoughts that come to mind as I move closer to 50 than 40 (!!) ? When did 47 stop feeling old? My grandma Stella […]

Different Than I Expected 9 Replies to “Still Becoming Me”
June 7, 2010

Rising From The Ashes

There are no cultural barriers, borders or misunderstanding among women who have confronted infertility. We know and understand each other in a way that defies words. NYCPhoenix and I first connected on my Coming2Terms blog. When The New York Times piece,”Living Without Children When It Isn’t by Choice” came out, I remember her comment among […]

Guest Post 4 Replies to “Rising From The Ashes”
May 30, 2010

An Artist Shares Decades of Wisdom

Editor’s Note: In the early weeks and months after stopping infertility treatments I craved access to happy and fulfilled women who had managed to survive the infertility experience.  I needed to hear from someone who could tell me that everything would be okay, someone with the wisdom and experience to know what I had lived […]

Guest Post, Tapestry of Voices 4 Replies to “An Artist Shares Decades of Wisdom”
May 23, 2010

The Globe and Mail Reports on Failed Fertility Treatments, Disenfranchised Grief

“Experience is not what happens to a man; it is what a man does with what happens to him.” — Aldous Huxley When I started blogging from my kitchen several years ago about coming to terms with infertility, I never fathomed my experience would end up in a major national daily like Canada’s The Globe […]

News Reports and Studies 18 Replies to “The Globe and Mail Reports on Failed Fertility Treatments, Disenfranchised Grief”
May 14, 2010

In The Company of Women

Is it any wonder women who have struggled with infertility have difficulty finding peace or feeling accepted? Sheesh! The drubbing my people took in The New York Times Motherlode comments last weekend was brutal. (Warning: some truly hateful thoughts — and many of these came from parents!? Just what kind of example are they setting?) […]

Different Than I Expected, Relationships 15 Replies to “In The Company of Women”
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