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January 9, 2018

‘Non-moms’ Often Forced to Contemplate and Carve out Their Own Unique Space and Meaning



Non-moms recognized? Read on …


That opening paragraph grabbed me. Did it grab, you, too? Truly, I didn’t expect this acknowledgement to make it into print, but it did.

I stumbled upon this reference to ‘non-moms’ in a story because Silent Sorority garnered a mention in a feature about Dolly Parton.  (And that alone is mind-boggling!)


It’s a great beginning to 2018, wouldn’t you say, when the world opens to consider a very real and not always easy path in life?  Yes, it is safe to say that ‘non-moms’ are often forced to contemplate and carve out their own unique space and meaning.

Alex posted the piece on Facebook where I wrote: “I continue to learn there are many dimensions and paths to living a fulfilled and fully engaged life.

A friend and longtime blog reader who is now raising a child wrote: “I find myself so irked every time someone says ‘x is the most important job on earth’ or ‘x is the most powerful love we can experience.’ I want us all to widen the embrace for all experiences and see the richness, beauty, value, heartache, and joy in everything.”

Could not agree more! I hope you all are embracing the same philosophy. I know that in this new year, I plan to do so.  2018 has started with a bang — from writing assignments to travel plans to making our newly remodeled house a home.  It certainly feels as though the time is ripe for change. Like many I watched the speech given by Oprah Winfrey at the Golden Globes award show earlier this week and thought, yep, another non-mom who is inspiring and pushing for a new day.

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There are many inspiring women in our online community — and in real life — whom I plan to engage and feature in a new blog series to build upon this theme of carving out unique spaces and meaning.

As always, I welcome your comments.


Different Than I Expected 4 Replies to “‘Non-moms’ Often Forced to Contemplate and Carve out Their Own Unique Space and Meaning”
Pamela Tsigdinos
Pamela Tsigdinos
Writer, blogger and, oh, yeah, infertility survivor. My memoir, Silent Sorority, tells the whole story. There's a movie in there somewhere. Given the quirkiness needed to relate it all I'm thinking Jennifer Lawrence would be a good fit.


4 thoughts on “‘Non-moms’ Often Forced to Contemplate and Carve out Their Own Unique Space and Meaning

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    There is this flawed assumption that if you aren’t parenting that somehow children are absent from your life. I’ve found that this is far from the case and often those who aren’t bestowed with the title of “parent” are usually invaluable resources for children and their communities as a whole.

    Dolly Parton is an amazing individual who has demonstrated time and again her love for children. Just as many other women and men who don’t hold the title of parent have done. It’s time we start honoring them for that.

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    I saw Jody D’s comment on Twitter about this year being the year that CNBC goes mainstream – I also feel like it might be!

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    It does seem like change is happening — maybe not fast enough for our liking ;) but there have definitely been some positive changes since you & I first started blogging 10+ years ago! — & you and your book & blog certainly deserve some of the credit.
    Looking forward to seeing what you have planned for 2018!

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    Why shouldn’t Pamela and Dolly be in the same article? Both awesome, inspiring women. Yay you!

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