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‘Non-moms’ Often Forced to Contemplate and Carve out Their Own Unique Space and Meaning

Posted on January 9, 2018January 10, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

 

 

Non-moms recognized? Read on …

Non-moms

That opening paragraph grabbed me. Did it grab, you, too? Truly, I didn’t expect this acknowledgement to make it into print, but it did.

I stumbled upon this reference to ‘non-moms’ in a story because Silent Sorority garnered a mention in a feature about Dolly Parton.  (And that alone is mind-boggling!)

Non-Mom

It’s a great beginning to 2018, wouldn’t you say, when the world opens to consider a very real and not always easy path in life?  Yes, it is safe to say that ‘non-moms’ are often forced to contemplate and carve out their own unique space and meaning.

Alex posted the piece on Facebook where I wrote: “I continue to learn there are many dimensions and paths to living a fulfilled and fully engaged life.”

A friend and longtime blog reader who is now raising a child wrote: “I find myself so irked every time someone says ‘x is the most important job on earth’ or ‘x is the most powerful love we can experience.’ I want us all to widen the embrace for all experiences and see the richness, beauty, value, heartache, and joy in everything.”

Could not agree more! I hope you all are embracing the same philosophy. I know that in this new year, I plan to do so.  2018 has started with a bang — from writing assignments to travel plans to making our newly remodeled house a home.  It certainly feels as though the time is ripe for change. Like many I watched the speech given by Oprah Winfrey at the Golden Globes award show earlier this week and thought, yep, another non-mom who is inspiring and pushing for a new day.

See also  Where Did Eight Years Go, Silent Sorority?

There are many inspiring women in our online community — and in real life — whom I plan to engage and feature in a new blog series to build upon this theme of carving out unique spaces and meaning.

As always, I welcome your comments.

 

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4 thoughts on “‘Non-moms’ Often Forced to Contemplate and Carve out Their Own Unique Space and Meaning”

  1. Cristy says:
    January 10, 2018 at 5:38 pm

    There is this flawed assumption that if you aren’t parenting that somehow children are absent from your life. I’ve found that this is far from the case and often those who aren’t bestowed with the title of “parent” are usually invaluable resources for children and their communities as a whole.

    Dolly Parton is an amazing individual who has demonstrated time and again her love for children. Just as many other women and men who don’t hold the title of parent have done. It’s time we start honoring them for that.

    Reply
  2. Different Shores says:
    January 11, 2018 at 1:49 am

    I saw Jody D’s comment on Twitter about this year being the year that CNBC goes mainstream – I also feel like it might be!

    Reply
  3. loribeth says:
    January 16, 2018 at 3:41 pm

    It does seem like change is happening — maybe not fast enough for our liking ;) but there have definitely been some positive changes since you & I first started blogging 10+ years ago! — & you and your book & blog certainly deserve some of the credit.
    Looking forward to seeing what you have planned for 2018!

    Reply
  4. Mali says:
    January 21, 2018 at 6:13 pm

    Why shouldn’t Pamela and Dolly be in the same article? Both awesome, inspiring women. Yay you!

    Reply

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