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Forever Changed … Again

Posted on February 27, 2021February 27, 2021 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Change comes slowly and then all at once. I honestly thought I would be better at coping with change and the pandemic bunker mentality by now.  But after a year, I still feel compelled to dig into my reserves to get through most days.  I know I’m not alone (feel y’all) in my exhaustion and…

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IVF Add-ons Racket: New Oversight Needed

Posted on December 12, 2019December 12, 2019 by Pamela Tsigdinos

IVF add-ons are the dirty little secret in the ‘fertility’ industry. These interventions are the latest in a long history of the industry experimenting on women. As I moved from IVF patient to patient advocate I’ve had the opportunity to monitor the industry from a unique perspective. You can see it unfold the past decade…

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Hello Strangers: I’m an Infertility Survivor and I’m Not Ashamed to Say It

Posted on February 2, 2015February 8, 2021 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Here is Part III of the ‘Bitter Infertiles’ conversation — on the anniversary of the day the podcast took place. This where we own up to our experiences as ‘Infertility Survivors.’  (In Part II of the ‘Bitter Infertiles’ podcast transcript (Part I here or listen to the podcast here), we talk infertility trauma, the assault…

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We Don’t Heal From Suffering We’re Changed By It

Posted on April 9, 2014January 19, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

We usually want to believe we’ll be grace under pressure, stoic and even sunny in the face of adversity. The truth is we never really know how we’ll respond to unexpected, searing pain and loss — being truly in despair — until we find ourselves facing it head on.  Even then we don’t have any…

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Grief Is a Form of Love

Posted on April 8, 2013October 25, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

It’s been a few years since I first began to pick up the pieces broken and splintered off in the tempest of infertility and failed IVF. Because there were no instructions for reassembly, no “how to cope with infertility” imparted by elders or learned through societal observation, I’ve had my fair share of trial and…

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Your Sanity Matters Much More Than You Think

Posted on February 8, 2013February 4, 2017 by Pamela Tsigdinos

This post is dedicated to new readers — those who found their way here from the Bitter Infertiles (podcast Episode 20). If you’re new to this blog, I hope you’ll see it’s quite pleasant here. Contrary to conventional wisdom, flowers grow. Laughter is encouraged. All in all, we strive to make this blog a place…

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What I Wish I’d Known Then: Virtual Casseroles Feed the Soul

Posted on February 2, 2013August 5, 2015 by Pamela Tsigdinos

February 3, 2007 marks a turning point. It’s the day I decided to reach outside my head, to wear my heart on my sleeve, and to seek some answers. Minutes after publishing my very first Coming2Terms blog post on that stormy night six years ago my stomach turned queasy. After years of suffering silently in…

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