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Resentment Is Truly Hardwired, But Release Is Possible

Posted on March 11, 2021March 12, 2021 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Resentment, I’m sad to say, best describes my state of mind these days. This is not something I admit easily. Nor do I care for how resentment feels, so join me as I attempt some junior varsity psychoanalysis.  Where to begin? You know how it feels on days when you’re just on edge, hair triggered…

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Living the Life Unexpected Takes on New Meaning

Posted on March 17, 2020March 17, 2020 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Living the life unexpected has become all too startlingly familiar, hasn’t it? Who among us has not felt jolted by the sudden onset of this out-of-nowhere, insidious coronavirus threat to what had been our mostly well-ordered lives and sense of agency? But, from my personally Cloroxed plane seat amid the current pandemic yesterday a spectacular…

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The Joy of Being an Infertile* Woman

Posted on January 14, 2019January 14, 2019 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Word swap (inserting infertile or childless to replace other words) has long been my way to make a point about the perils of tribalistic thinking. It’s amusing and informative to highlight one’s myopic perspective. Further, the exercise can reveal insights applicable to other tribes or communities. In this latest example, an author asserts age confers…

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Prince Harry and I Agree: Bury Grief at Your Peril

Posted on August 7, 2017January 19, 2023 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Give voice to your grief, loss and trauma or risk being held hostage by it. If you agree with that assessment you’re in some royal good company. Prince William and Prince Harry to be exact. They got my attention in recent interviews about how grief and loss impacted their lives. Harry notably talked of how…

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What Will Life Be Like if IVF Fails?

Posted on July 8, 2017July 8, 2017 by Pamela Tsigdinos

When IVF fails. Imagine if this very real outcome was the compassionately finessed starting point of any fertility-related discussion. Novel, don’t you agree? It’s the inverse of how the IVF sales pitch begins at ‘fertility’ clinics. The lack of preparation for IVF failure creates unforeseen hazards. It also leaves those left to confront an IVF…

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Human Nature Boils Down to This: We Want to Belong

Posted on October 9, 2016October 11, 2016 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Human nature — and the human ability to surprise through actions, words and deeds — never cease to amaze. Sometimes the results delight; other times not so much. We see both results amplified in today’s political climate. The increasingly polarized nature of society is troubling. Makes one wonder about civilization and what led us to…

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No Wonder I Was Such a Head Case

Posted on March 12, 2015December 13, 2018 by Pamela Tsigdinos

A recent piece in The New York Times headlined It’s Not Always Depression gave me the chance to play amateur psychologist. Join me on the couch as we explore emotions and how they affect the way we view ourselves or feel on any given day. To make this even more real, take yourself back to…

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Not Having Children After Infertility ‘An Assault to Identity’

Posted on April 30, 2012January 15, 2017 by Pamela Tsigdinos

Women who experience infertility and do not gone on to parent get short shrift not only in society but in research. They are left to cope without much needed support or understanding. This is made all the more difficult amid the deification of mothers. That’s why I’m pleased today to share an online discussion with the…

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